One of the biggest challenges I have found with being dominate in a relationship is figuring out how to be dominate. It is not that I cannot be in charge; but it is finding the right balance between all the expectations and assumptions. Possibly the toughest part of this is not having someone outside of my wife to talk with. Someone with actual experience!
That leaves me/us trying to determine our own path without any guidance and trying to move from 0 to 60 (or if you prefer vanilla to kinky). There have been a lot of bumps in the road and I think we can do a lot better. Right now we are faced with the issue that we are busy from morning to night and by time we get home we are both tired and running a strong dominate and submissive relationship really requires a lot of time, attention, and effort.
So we keep looking to find our way and it is my intention to create a timeline and set more control around our path forward so that my submissive understands what will be expected each week as we grow into a full D/s situation.
Keep an eye out for D/s 2.0, it will be coming soon as I plan out my little submissive’s time. Having boundaries and organization are the only ways we will succeed in moving forward.