control [kuh n-trohl]
verb (used with object), controlled, controlling.
1. to exercise restraint or direction over; dominate; command: The car is difficult to control at high speeds. That zone is controlled by enemy troops.
2. to hold in check; curb: to control a horse; to control one’s emotions.
Control is a amazing and often fragile thing. When a submissive gives themselves freely it becomes a great responsibility for the Dominant to care and guide them. Much like ever military leader should take care in placing their troops in harms way, a Dominant should protect and care for his submissive. Both the troops and submissive may face hardships, it is believed that their training and mental development will prepare them for what is in store.
For the submissive, one of the things that many Domiants like to control is their release. Only allowing them to cum when the Dominant wants or on command.
It can be quite enjoyable for the Domiant to hear their submissive beg and plead; and in the end control is truely tested.
Practice all types of control carefully. Denying a submissive to cum for a week may be “cruel” if that is a day one task but not if it is a year into a relationship. The measure of what is appropriate is defined by the individuals involved and what you agree to as a couple (or group).